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Eye Love You

I loved David’s eyes. It would be accurate to say it was his beautiful brown eyes that first got my attention at the counter of the Sambo’s restaurant I was a waitress at in the summer of 1978. And it took eight births to get those brown eyes in any of our children. I was thrilled when in the summer of 2003, we finally held a baby that had both David’s brown eyes and my cleft chin, our little Abigail Grace.

Shortly after David was pronounced dead at the hospital, I was asked if he would want any of his organs donated. As painful a decision as that is to make at a time like that, it was an easy one. David had been donating blood this past year. He was a generous person. I knew what he would have wanted. Unfortunately, the only organs able to be donated turned out to be his eyes. Appropriate~David’s beautiful eyes will be used. He would have liked that, I thought as I sat in a small private room, waiting for a phone call from a representative who handled these kinds of phone calls. David, the man said his name was. Appropriate again, I thought, my mind foggy with shock and sadness. It is a wonder the man could hear anything I said; my tongue was thick with grief, my voice a hoarse whisper.

On the very same day that I received David’s official death certificate, papers arrived from the Lion’s Bank, informing me that, thanks to David’s eyes, a 41-year-old woman and a 68-year-old man will receive cornea transplants.

How appropriate. I love you David.

And I loved your eyes.


Author, public speaker, and workshop presenter for community colleges, libraries, women's groups and for grief support groups, Hospice and retreats. Certified grief counselor and Senior Service librarian for the James Kennedy Public library. Popular public speaker and workshop presenter on the topics of writing, couponing, utilizing your creativity in everyday life, and finding hope in grief. "Coupon Crazy: The Science, the Savings, and the Stories Behind America's Extreme Obsession" was published by Familius Publishing in 2014. "Chemo-Therapist: How Cancer Cured a Marriage" and "Refined By Fire: A Journey of Grief and Grace" were released by Familius in 2014. "Mary & Me: A Lasting Link Through Ink," co-written with Mary Jedlicka Humston of Iowa City, was published in September 2015. Grief journal to be released in 2018.

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